Why Good People Have Affairs

December 8, 2025

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This episode explores why affairs happen even among people who genuinely value their relationships and never imagined crossing that line. The hosts break down the emotional, psychological, and relational dynamics that make secrecy, novelty, and unmet needs so compelling. They also examine how betrayal impacts identity, trust, and a couple’s shared narrative — and what healing realistically requires.

MAIN TALKING POINTS

  • Secrecy & allure
  • Emotional rupture
  • Unmet needs
  • Fantasy vs. reality
  • Identity confusion
  • Rebuilding trust

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